January 06th, 2009 | Category: zjnz.com
Some people will just "beat around the bush" and won't even say shut-up - it's hard to tell if they want you to be quiet. This is a bad thing for me because I talk a lot at times and I feel like i'm annoying the person i'm talking to, and it's hard to actually tell if they want me to be quiet. Could someone tell me a few signs to look for?if you're dominating the convo, that's annoying, so be midful of what you're saying. as for signs, how about wandering eyes, folded arms, sighs, constantly moving feet, unresponsive. tones in speech that indicate a "wrapping it up" feel, like "well....." and "okay, well, i ......"A really good way to not even get into that territory is to ask them what they think every few sentences. Make sure they're involved in the conversation. Especially questions like "What do you think" or "What should I do" are incredibly good. Also, don't just talk for talking's sake. You have to learn to be comfortable in silences.If you feel you are annoying people, you probably are - but I really respect that you recognize a weakness and are willing to work on it. I would just encourage you to stop talking for awhile, ask questions, show genuine interest in the other person and listen to them.If they don't speak or look away from youIf you are talking and they give you a weird look that means just shut up or if they say do you think I am listening look at the body language, if they are looking around then ask them if you are annoying them. they might not be able to tell you directly but if you ask them they will most likely tell you If they ignore you then they want you to shut up!#If you have any other info about this subject , Please add it free.# |
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